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As a GP, I see far too many young females suffer through painful sex

Painful sex is rather common. In my work as a GP, I see a steady stream of moderately uneasy 22-year-olds, underwhelmed by their sex lives and ashamed of it.

I see one, and then there’s a spate of their friends. They think there is something wrong with their body. They say sex has always been painful, and for some of them it’s now agony, but they grit their teeth and make the noises they have picked up from movies.

Young women are presenting to GPs complaining of painful sex.

Photo: Stocksy

For some women it eventually becomes unbearable. Some of them don’t know what it feels like to be physically aroused, after three or four years of sexual activity. That is a shameful tragedy. To those 22-year-olds, I say the following.

It could be thrush, bladder irritability, pelvic muscle spasm, chlamydia, endometriosis. We will consider those options. But we must bear in mind that many young guys are watching porn sold to them by people who have a vested interest in dehumanising women. They’re not exactly learning from the Sensei of Superlovers.

Professor Gail Dines, anti-pornographer scholar and activist, puts it simply: “Men learn about sex from mainly porn, and in porn nothing is too painful or degrading for women.”

Pain while having sex is reported at something between six and 25 per cent of women, but research into the effect of increasing porn consumption on female sexual dysfunction is mostly anecdotal.

The anecdotes go like this: more and more women are reporting a first sexual experience that sounds like a guy copying something he’s seen in a hardcore porn flic.

And the vagina does not forget.

The thing with dyspareunia (penetrative sex that hurts) is that each painful experience entrenches subconscious fear and aversion, which leads to pain and dryness, which leads to fear and aversion, which leads to panic and frustration, which leads to pain and dryness, and the cycle continues.

Many women don’t tell their partner because they don’t want him to think he can’t turn them on. Some guys don’t know their partner is in pain; she is too good at faking. They are trying to be good lovers but rather than asking the real, live woman in front of them, they choose to do their research online. Most just don’t know what to do when a woman’s vagina closes like a slamming door, which is what happens if you have enough painful sex.

The solution? Time.

The treatment for established dyspareunia is essentially to stop having penetrative sex for a significant period of time. Like, months. This is an excellent test of a relationship and takes an investment of trust, dedication, time and love. It’s also an opportunity for everyone to get really good at oral sex. At least that’s how I frame it when the jaws drop in dismay. You could also circumnavigate each other’s naked bodies and map all the erogenous zones, or at get really good at mahjong.

Investing in your next 60 years of sex is worthwhile and, really, why would you even want to be with someone who didn’t like making you happy-moan? The best kind of guy will accept the challenge.

Vaginas are clever; they have long memories. When the signals for impending sex come in they remember the pain and close up shop, which obviously makes some things more painful. Resetting this response means the brain, nerves, vagina and vulva all need to forget that sex is like having your nails extracted while you have to keep smiling.

Gradual, calm, and enjoyable reintroduction of penetration by various methods is the key: her fingers, followed weeks after by his fingers under the guidance of her fingers. Lubrication is our friend, and should be purchased in bulk. The penis is last to be invited to the party, and sends a polite request for admission prior to his arrival.

Most of the time women complaining of painful sex do not have any physical abnormality, but it’s worth seeing a doctor to rule out some easily fixed culprits, particularly if you’ve previously had non-painful sex and now it’s painful. Pelvic physiotherapists can help with muscle retraining and relaxation. A psychologist can assist if anxiety is part of the issue.

I don’t like to use the word “should” but I’ll make this one exception.

Sex should be fun and funny. It should be good. You should be able to express your desires, because they are good desires.

It’s okay to want foreplay without penetrative sex. It’s okay to not be ready for penetration three seconds after someone throws you against a wall. It’s okay to pause and chat a while, to say you don’t want anal sex, or to call time on painful sex. It’s okay to turn genitalia into puppets and reenact Les Miserables if it helps you get comfy with each others’ parts. If arousal sometimes takes 45 minutes of him touching your ankle while you watch Tangled, then so be it.

For only once you’ve mastered the rules can you break them.

Dr Elizabeth Oliver is a Sydney GP. She tweets at @thatladydoctor.


Henry Sapiecha


Why I am cheating on my partner. Their stories.

Here’s a sobering thought: every day an average of 15,500 new members sign up to adultery website Ashley Madison, according to a 2017 analysis it commissioned from accountancy giants Ernst & Young. And a recent poll conducted by Ashley Madison also revealed that while 61 per cent of its members worldwide were motivated by the idea of “satisfying sex”, 44 per cent cited “affection” as their main reason and 30 per cent were “chasing the feeling of butterflies”.

“I’m far more intoxicated with the hand-holding, the hugs, the long conversations and the eye contact.Photo: Stocksy

Kerrie James, of Relationships Australia NSW, says that while sex is a common reason given for infidelity, things are often more complicated.

“There are as many reasons as there are people having affairs,” she explains. “It could be that the person cheating isn’t happy in their current relationship, or feeling particularly committed to it. Or they could be coming to the realisation the person they’re married to isn’t necessarily the right person for them.

“But it could also be something as simple as feeling attracted to someone else, even when they are no less attracted to their own partner.” Here, three people explain why they’re cheating on their partner.

WAYNE*, 42

Four children, married for 22 years. He has had a girlfriend for over six years.

“I tried for a very long time to get my wife to go to marriage counselling, but she wasn’t interested in any of it. Even though she’d made it obvious & clear she didn’t want a bar of me physically or emotionally, whenever I pushed the topic [of counselling] she insisted we were OK. We were far from fine; we were two people who’d married and started a family at a young age, now sharing a roof and a mortgage like two strangers under the one roof. It’s a lonely miserable way to live.

Most people think men who have affairs are just after sex, but that’s far from the truth in my situation. Obviously sex with someone who truly wants to be intimate with you is a benefit you can’t discount, but I’m far more intoxicated with the hand-holding, the hugs, the long conversations and the eye contact.

I know it must sound silly, but I don’t think people realise how much it means to have your partner look up when you enter a room and maintain eye contact as you speak with them. It makes you feel important and as though your opinions and your thoughts are valued. For me, that has been the biggest plus factor of meeting my girlfriend, Nancy*.

Nancy is married with children, so we have a common shared understanding of how our relationship must work. When we first met, we spent time drafting up some guidelines we follow to this day – rules such as when and what we use to contact each other and how regularly we can meet up.

The sex is exciting and I think a part of that is because we know we’re doing something we’re not meant to be doing, but there’s also an excitement in finding places where we can do it, such as hotels, parks and cars. On the flipside, when you’re trying to coordinate two separate family schedules and all of their sporting, social and extracurricular commitments, as well as full-time jobs, it’s also a logistical hellish nightmare. We have a strong connection, but we’re always careful not to cross any lines we’ve drawn.

Being with Nancy has made me happy in ways I’d long given up, but that doesn’t mean I’m without guilt or remorse. One thing I am without is a plan, because I don’t know where my future with my wife lies or what will happen next. For now I’m just plodding along day by day and waiting for the chips to fall where they may.”

LINDA*, 38

One child, married over 12 years. She has been having an “emotional affair” with a work ex-colleague for 18 months.

“If you’d asked me whether I was having an affair one year ago, I would have laughed. Back then, I hadn’t heard the term ’emotional affair’, which made my relationship with Matt* that much easier to gloss over.

I hid my true emotions behind words like ‘friendship’, but even then I knew how I really felt about him. I mean, you don’t often spend most of your waking hours daydreaming about someone who isn’t your husband, now do you?

I guess I’m fortunate that emotional connections are easier to hide than physical intimacy. My husband hasn’t got any idea.

Matt has a really easy & comforting way of talking to people that I was drawn to from the minute I met him. When we were working together, we would meet sometimes for coffee or lunch and I’d leave amazed at how much I opened up to him – I was telling him stuff I’d never told anyone, and it didn’t seem like such a big deal.

When he found a new job a few months after that, I took the news pretty badly. The first day I walked into the office to find someone else in his seat felt gut-wrenching, and I realised then just how much I looked forward to seeing him every day. He soon texted to say he missed my company, too. From that point on, everything between us just intensified.

It’s hard to describe the relationship I have with Matt, but I guess the best way to describe it is non-physical – we’ve never even kissed – but with a strong emotional connection that makes me really crave his company in a way I don’t with any other friend.male or female.

He makes me feel attractive, wanted and interesting in a way that I haven’t felt in a long time – certainly not since I became a mum. Some days he’ll pick me up from work and we’ll sit parked in his car and talk for hours, but I’ll tell my husband I was at a work function. Other times, he’ll come to dinner at our house with his wife and we’ll all eat together ‘like mates’.

It’s awkward, and I’m forever constantly lying to my husband, but at the same time there’s a thrill to having this secret part to my life no one knows about.

I don’t have any plans to turn what I have with Matt into a physical affair and I don’t think he would ever make a move. We’ve both agreed that even though we’re attracted to each other, we love our partners too much to ever hurt them. We’ll just take this as a chance to feel some excitement in an otherwise monotonous life until things run their course. Isn’t that the point of all affairs?”

CAROL*, 30

Three children, married for six years. She joined Ashley Madison a year ago and has had sex encounters with a succession of married men.

“Marriage gave me three awesome children, but motherhood meant I also lost sight of the person I used to be. Before the kids, I was wild & provocative– always the first one on the dance floor – but over the last so many years it feels like my life has been nothing but a forever endless cycle of dirty nappies, sleep-settling and playground visits.

Joe* and I had problems before we were married, but with the stress of raising three young kids, those problems have only intensified. I carry a lot of resentment.

I first went online to boost my self-confidence. Your body changes so much when you have children and I had no idea if I’d ever be able to attract anyone again.

Six months after my youngest was born, I created a profile just to see what other men thought of me. I was thrilled to discover there were plenty of men who didn’t see me as a mum, but as a hot-blooded female. A month after I started chatting with men on the site, I met someone I got on with.

He invited me to his house while his wife and child were out. It was a spontaneous sex act, and the experience was daunting and exciting all at the same time.

I never saw that guy again, but there have been other men since. At the moment, I’m seeing a site regular who’s going through a divorce. Once a fortnight, I put the kids in day care while my husband is at work and I drive out to the hotel to meet him for the afternoon.

I’m not delusional; nobody is looking for love. It’s just a few hours fulfilling animalistic sexual urges we all have before we return to our normal humdrum lives, with all the everyday stresses they contain. During that time, I don’t have to be Mum and I don’t have to be Wife, I can just be Carol.

I know it sounds selfish, but I’m not sure I am. I guess I feel a small bit of guilt every so often, but for the most part I feel rather empowered.

Being with good-looking men has made me feel better about myself, and the sex my husband and I have has improved as a result. We’d never stopped being intimate, but it’s even better now that I can find different ways to please him with all the new tricks I’ve been picking up.

Cheating on my husband isn’t a forever journey and I know I can stop whenever I want. For the moment, I’m taking what I need and I’m enjoying myself while I can, but I plan to eventually recommit to my marriage.

* Names have been changed for obvios reasons.


Henry Sapiecha


Went from being a female prison officer to becoming a super hot sexy woman porn star

FACING off against global competition was not easy, admits Melburnian Isabelle Deltore. But winning Miss Nude World 2018 was just the confirmation she needed that a drastic career change had all been worth it.

She’s now a “nude glamour babe and webcam model”, but just a few years ago Ms Deltore had a very different profession as an officer locking up men at some of Australia’s toughest prisons.

Talking to on the sidelines of the recent Sexpo event in Sydney, where she was performing and selling merchandise, Ms Deltore said she left the prison service for porn because she was “being objectified” by the criminals.

Isabelle Deltore from Melbourne used to work in the Victorian prison system. Picture: Isabelle Deltore

Money wise, and in terms of self-esteem, she said she’s never looked back.

“I do pornography, but the technical term is ‘erotica’ because I only do solo and girl on girl but I don’t do boy girl stuff and it’s that which crosses it over to pornography. But the industry is so small so quite often we don’t differentiate between erotica and pornography.”

Rather than men looking at her – as they do now in their droves on stage and online – she was once the one keeping a beady eye on the blokes.

“I was a screw, an officer, in youth justice and I was in maximum security for five years. I was in the army reserves as well.”

But the grind of working in the prison system, and the office politics, wore down Ms Deltore.

Isabelle Deltore is a regular at Sexpo adult events. Picture: Isabelle Deltore

“I was very good at what I did but I was constantly fighting to move up the chain and I was never going to win,” she said.

“I was just sick of the violence, sick of the sexual innuendo; I was constantly being objectified and was like ‘why not make money out of (being objectified)’?

“I couldn’t figure out what I was going to do so I decided to be a secret stripper until I could get another job with my degree. But I just liked stripping too much.”

The vastly increased remuneration she received at famous strip club Spearmint Rhino also focused her mind.

“This is definitely more lucrative. I wasn’t on the (prison) roster, I’d done my last shift, and then I went into Spearmint Rhino and made what I would have made into two weeks in one night.

“At 4am, I sent the prison an email saying I resign. I was like, see you later.”

Ms Deltore has been the cover story of porn mags, has her own products such as calendars, and is a XXX webcam star. For a $100 you can even buy some one-on-one nude Skype time with her.

Ms Deltore from Melbourne won the Miss Nude World 2018. Picture: Isabelle Deltore

“With my current line of work everyone knows what’s on the table. Maybe me? Maybe not..!! If they want to buy a lap dance, well here are the boundaries, we’re exchanging money for it so it’s very out in the open.

“Previously I would complain if I had some officer or prisoner make a pass at me. Now I’m much happier and my self-esteem has increased.”

But being a prison officer has taught her a few lessons, she said, including managing her time and being disciplined. And she knows how to handle the frisky fingers of over excited punters.

“I was managing units of 20-40 inmates and staff so I know how to deal with people who are a little bit difficult, how to be assertive without being aggressive.

“And it’s the same dealing with blokes; you be honest and go this is the line. You will sometimes get an ‘ah but’ from one, but my response is ‘no I’m not dealing with your buts mate’.”

Erotic photography is a big change from locking up prisoners. Picture: Isabelle Deltore

That discipline and assertiveness has helped her nab the Miss Nude World crown twice now, once in 2015 and again this year.

“I don’t know when to stop working. I will set goals and I will do everything I can to achieve them to the detriment of everything else.


“When I wanted to win Miss Nude World I tried for months. I had to learn aerial hoop from scratch so one of my trainers was from Cirque du Soleil and it was 30 hours a week as well as dance classes, choreography and costume making. It almost cost me my relationship because I was overly focused.

“Miss Nude World is not just about doing the pole and taking your clothes off. You have to be an all-round show girl; you’re judged on if you have that pizzazz factor. I had some massive props including a two metre high horse that spun on a disc and spat water out of its nose,” she said.

“I’m not even joking; it’s for sale if anyone wants it.”

Ms Deltore performed one of her Miss Nude World shows at Sexpo in Sydney, the adult event that travels to Adelaide in August. She said she loved appearing on stage but her performances, some of which have a Mad Max theme, can be tiring.

“It can be so busy and everyone wants a piece of you, at times I can feel like a packet of Maccas chips in a car park with seagulls all over it. You’re like ‘please I just need a minute to myself’.”

In her downtime, she meditates, practices her archery skills and is looking forward to an addition to the family: “I have a Clydesdale horse and she’s in foal so we’re all waiting.”

What about kicking back with Netflix and having a chill? Ms Deltore laughed: “I usually Netflix and pass out because I’m so exhausted.”

Despite being in the erotic industry for five years now, once in a while she comes face-to-face with her previous career.

“I’ve had (sex) prisoners come see me and say they just can’t work out where they know me from,” she said.

“And once I had the general manager of a prison spot me when I was doing a pub show.

“He said to me, ‘you seem much happier now’ and I was like, ‘I feel much happier now’.”

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Henry Sapiecha

Published by Henry, on July 1st, 2018 at 8:16 pm. Filled under: JOBS CAREERS,LAW POLICE COURTS,PIC GALLERY,PORN STARS. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , | No Comments |

Armed with a deadly machete she hid behind ex-boyfriend’s bedroom door then forced him to have sex: police

Montana: Late on Friday night, police in Great Falls, Montana,USA received a call from a male in distress: he had arrived home to find his ex-girlfriend hiding behind his bedroom door, wielding a machete.

She had broken into the house while he was absent, he said, and when he opened the door and walked into his room, she approached him from behind and held the machete to his throat.

Then, according to a probable cause affidavit, she told him to remove his clothes.

Samantha Ray Mears, 19, now faces six charges after police say she forced the man to have sex with her at machete-knife point, damaged his property and fled just as the police were arriving.

She has been charged with aggravated battery, assault with a weapon, unlawful restraint, partner family member assault as well as two counts of criminal mischief.

It was not clear whether Mears had a lawyer representing her. She allegedly told police the man kidnapped her and then gave her a machete to protect herself, the Great Falls Tribune reported.

The unidentified man told police that, once she told him to undress, she ordered him onto the bed. He complied because he feared for his life. Mears then took off her pants, climbed on top of him and began having sex with him, still holding the machete, the affidavit alleges.

When the man tried to push her off, she bit him on the arm and kept going, he said.

“After the intercourse, Mears sat on the bed, still armed with the machete, with her back against the wall,” the affidavit said.

An argument started as soon as the sex ended, the man said, prompting Mears to rip a piece of trim off his wall and then urinate on his bed, according to the affidavit.

He found an opportune moment to step away & pretend to call someone named “Doug”, but he was really calling 911.

Police say Mears fled just as the police were pulling up at the residence.

The man supplied his evidence once they arrived, according to the affidavit: a bite mark on his arm and photos he took while Mears sat on the bed with her machete.

Mears has a long history of assault charges against the man, whom she had been dating for around seven years, the Great Falls Tribune reported.

The Washington Post


Henry Sapiecha

Published by Henry, on June 28th, 2018 at 6:47 pm. Filled under: COURT CASES LEGALS,RAPE SEXUAL ABUSE. Tags: , , , , | No Comments |

Aussie escort says sex workers are being left to work the streets

AUSTRALIAN sex workers have been left homeless, losing hundreds of dollars a week resorting to dangerous street hooker work because of a US law which has forced the closure of classified advertising websites.

Melbourne-based escort Alice Grey said she is one of the lucky ones even though she is copping losses of around $1000 a week because of the closure of classified advertising websites Backpage and Cracker.

However, people she knows in the industry have been left out of work or struggling in ultra-competitive brothel and parlour work to get by.

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“I am extremely thankful that I managed to build up my brand before these sites closed down, but I’ve lost a massive chunk of my clients,” the 24-year-old with a Masters in Genetics told

“The industry is not a happy place at the moment and there are people, my friends, out there who are homeless because of this.”

The closure of popular classified advertising websites such as Craigslist, Backpage and Cracker began when US President Donald Trump signed a combined bill into law known as FOSTA (Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act) SESTA (Stop Enabling Sex-Trafficking Act) in the hope of combating illegal sex trafficking online

Alice Grey said her friends have been left homeless because of the website closures.

Because Aussie sex workers use the America-based websites to advertise their services, President Trump’s new law directly affects them.

“I went without work for almost three weeks when Backpage and Cracker websites first went down, and had no way to ensure short notice to pay my bills during that time without using savings,” Ms Grey said.

“I was lucky to have had savings, and that this time without work was limited. Backpage went down on April 7 and a friend of mine hasn’t had any sex work since.”

She said others have tried going to brothel work which, in Melbourne, can pit up to 60 girls against each other as they compete for maybe just one client.

“Sometimes you are lucky to get one client and, even then, the parlour takes a cut of up to 60 per cent,” she said.

“So you might be working a 12-hour overnight shift and just make a lousy $100.

“That isn’t enough to cover your phone bill, electricity bills, rent or food. Sometimes you don’t even make enough to cover your Uber trip home for the night.”

She said sex workers in desperation are turning to the streets to find work, which she says is far more dangerous than advertising on the net. She says terrified Aussie workers have heard horror stories of a recent spike in sex workers being raped, abducted and murdered in the US as they worked on the streets, but they feel as if they have no other option.

However, another sex worker Jessie Lee Pierce, told Cracker and Backpage were “vile” because they attracted “sick” clients.

She said one wanted to act out a rape scene with her and another asked her if she would have sex with animals.

Jessie Lee Pierce says Cracker and Backpage attracted “vile” clients. Picture: Twitter

“My worst scary inquiry experience was from a man who wanted me to visit his house,” Ms Pierce said. “Once I was there he wanted to tie me up, gag me, strangle me, and he described what sounded like an eiry organised rape.

“The explicit detail of the sexual acts really got to me. I never responded and I contacted Backpage and asked them to immediately pull my ad and never used the website again.

“I’ve seen ads on Backpage where girls were advertising unprotected sex for $50, that attracts a certain demographic.”

However, Ms Pierce added she was disapointed by the closure of the classified website because of the impact it has had on her friends & associates in the sex industry.

Ms Grey said another massive blow from the closure of the major classified advertising websites was the lack of flexibility offered by the other existing websites.

She said the classified websites allowed workers to “bump” their advert with an extra small fee, so they could promote themselves when it suited them to work.

Some of the remaining websites have a flat fee to place adverts, which means it’s more difficult for escorts to work part-time, for example to support their studies or other work.

Ms Grey added the closures have made travelling to work in other states has now become financially risky, because escorts can’t “bump” their adverts when they arrive at a new venue.

“Travelling interstate to work is extremely important for escorts,” she said. “It’s like when a band releases a new album, you have to go out there and promote yourself and your brand.

“If you get five clients, it would be a good trip. But, since Backpage and Cracker websites have closed down it’s become far too risky to make the interstate trips.”

Henry Sapiecha

Published by Henry, on June 17th, 2018 at 6:31 pm. Filled under: JOBS CAREERS,PROSTITUTION,WEB SITES,WOMEN,WORK SEX. Tags: , , , , , | No Comments |

Samantha the sex robot is now here and so are the comments

Samantha the sex robot “who has a brain and can tell jokes” is finally available for $4,280. She can even switch from sex mode to family mode. Because what wife and kids doesn’t wanna hang with daddy’s new sex robot?

Most importantly though, people seem to be less worried about the upcoming robopocalypse and more concerned about her becoming just another needy girlfriend.

Henry Sapiecha

Published by Henry, on June 11th, 2018 at 10:44 pm. Filled under: ANDROIDS AI,ROBOTS & SEX. Tags: , , , , , , | No Comments |

Facts about the female orgasm that’ll blow your… mind (25 Images)

The various things about female orgasms that you probably always wanted to know

Women don’t need to have their vagina stimulated in order to achieve an orgasm. This can be done through anal stimulation, kissing, fondling of other body parts, and even (for a small amount of women) just by mere thought.

Around 55% of American women have used a vibrator at some stage in their life.

It turns out that females can prematurely orgasm. This is great, other than the fact that afterwards, they can jump right back into it again. Whereas us guys need a little bit more time, so it’s still worse. A 2011 study showed that 40% of the women in the study experienced orgasms prior to the time that they wanted to during intercourse. However, this was only considered chronic in 3% of them

Orgasms can genuinely help with pain. Headache sufferers often find that orgasms help calm their headaches.

Contrary to popular belief, there is only one type of orgasm for women. There isn’t a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm, or even an anal orgasm. It’s all one & the same orgasm, but you can achieve it in a variety of ways

You can die from orgasms. Well… if there’s any one way to go, then that would be it I suppose. Don’t be concerned, this is incredibly uncommon.

A study in 2014 showed us that lesbians tend to experience orgasms more frequently than heterosexual females do during the sex act. According to the study, 61.6% of heterosexual females experience frequent orgasms during sex, while 74.7% of lesbians experience orgasms during sex. Hey, they have the advantage of knowing all the tricks maybe.

There are women who have reported having orgasms while getting tattooed.

Squirting is a very real thing. Not every woman can do it, but when they do, it’s quite intense for the female. Furthermore, it isn’t pee. A lot of people seem to think it’s pee. It’s not pee. It’s not jizz either, though. Some women’s urethral sponge is filled with a fluid that is similar to ejaculate fluid but contains no semen.

Vibrators were once used by doctors to treat hysteria. We’ve all heard about this, and that’s because it’s true! This is no joke. The first vibrators used for this, however, were steam powered, which is kind of interesting.

Women can experience orgasms during physical workouts. With the right muscles constantly engaged, and maybe the help of some particular sitting positions (and a nice seat?) you can experience an orgasm.

Women who ‘mix things up’ when in the bedroom are likelier to have frequent orgasms.

Around .5% of women have had an orgasm whilst giving birth.

There has been one documented case of a women experiencing an orgasm from brushing her teeth.

Some women have been known to faint when they orgasm. There have even been reports of heat failure via orgasm, but it is a very rare (and unfortunate) circumstance.

Gentlemen, if your girl is faking an orgasm, there are easy ways to tell. Look for her increased heart rate, rhythmic contractions in her lower abdomen, arched feet, pelvic thrusts and dilated pupils.

Kegel exercises (working out of the vagina) can help improve both the quantity of orgasms and the quality of orgasms a woman can experience. They aid in sexual arousal, lubrication, and orgasm achievability.

When women experience an orgasm, their bodies release oxytocin, which increases their feelings of affection & love. The strength of the female orgasm relies on how much oxytocin is in her system at the time of orgasm.


Multiples orgasms are very far from being just a myth. A study of 800 female college graduates found that approximately 43% reported having had multiple orgasms. So presicely what is a multiple orgasm?

According to Dr. Streicher. “Some women experience long, cascading orgasms, where you continue to have strong rhythmic pelvic contractions for some time. And then there are orgasms where you have that over-satisfied sensation which stops and then, with more stimulation, starts again.”

Findings have shown us that the moment that you achieve an orgasm literally makes you .to feel fearless and stronger than ever. Your self-reflection activity and fear dramatically decrease during orgasm. It’s too bad that they’re so damn just not long enough.

Does your female S/O hate anal play? Maybe suggest that nearly 95% of women can orgasm through anal sex.

The clitoris is made of the same material as the penis head and contains approx. 8,000 nerve endings.

Not every woman experiences the mind-blowing, bed-rocking, exorcism inducing orgasms that we visualise. In fact, some women don’t even know when they’ve orgasmed exactly. Rather, they feel a certain feeling of “completion and satisfaction.”

Studies are disclosing that older women are experiencing more orgasms than younger women are. A recent study showed us that 61% of females having sex between the ages of 18 and 24 experienced an orgasm the last time they got jiggy. For women ages 40+ that number shoots up to 70%. The Cougars rule?

A female orgasm can last anywhere from 15 seconds to 2 minutes. It’s different for each individual, but on average, the female orgasm usually lasts anywhere between 15 and 20 seconds.

Henry Sapiecha


Published by Henry, on June 11th, 2018 at 9:56 pm. Filled under: HOW TO & DIY,ORGASMS,WOMEN. Tags: , , , | No Comments |

Woman couldn’t orgasm for 10 years

A BURLESQUE dancer who couldn’t have an orgasm during sex for almost ten years was labelled “too difficult to please” by her lovers.

Amy Gledhill, from Leicester, has a rather rare condition called situational anorgasmia – meaning she can’t climax in certain circumstances, The Sun reports.

The 26-year-old construction worker, who also works as a burlesque dancer, was so ashamed of her condition that she would hide under the sheets during sex.

Now in a loving relationship, she still at times struggles to climax.

The 26-year-old used to be so ashamed of the condition that she would hide under the sheets during sex. Picture: Facebook

Ms Gledhill told the Mail Online she had underwent psychosensual treatment with relationships and sex mentor Colin Richards to help get to the root of her problem.

“Being so open about sex and relationships, people are often surprised that I have situational anorgasmia but I don’t think they put this and the burlesque together,” she said.

Amy first noticed something was wrong when she was 17 and says she was unable to climax with a partner either during sex or when masturbating in front of them.

She soon realised that she could only experience an orgasm when by herself.

“You read magazines and hear all the different ways to give and receive sexual pleasure, and see multiple orgasms in porn, and you just assume every woman is capable of such easy pleasure,” she said.

After some years of feeling something was wrong, Ms Gledhill became self-conscious and felt “under pressure to perform”.

“In the past, comments were made that I’m ‘difficult’ to please. That breaks down the bond you’d ideally like to have with a partner and makes it seem very one-sided,” she said.

“As relationships have gone on and I’ve become more comfortable with partners, I have been able to relax more and found a way of masturbating with them to achieve orgasm during a sexual encounter.

“I was still always aware that they felt somewhat disappointed that they had not been able to make me orgasm directly or through penetrative sex.”

She underwent psychosensual treatment with a relationships and sex mentor to help get to the root of her problem. Picture: Facebook

Ms Gledhill has now been in a relationship with Mike Rollason for over a year and says he is more supportive than past lovers, and prepared to spend more time “finding out what I like and what turns me on.”

“We communicate so much more and a genuine connection also helps as well as my own experience over time,” she said.

Earlier this year, Ms Gledhill sought the assistance of Colin Richards, founder of Intimacy Matters.

She partook in a workshop as a “volunteer massage receiver” to help her deal with her body confidence and shyness issues.

During a three hour psychosensual treatment, which combined counselling and intimate bodywork, they explored her childhood, teen years and relationships.

“We discussed a few different things that may have affected me.”

They concluded that her shyness meant she struggled to make her voice heard, fearing what she had to say was not “worth people’s time.”

“My sexual openness and personal guidance from Colin has helped me achieve a better personal sexual understanding,” Ms Gledhill said.

She said she now has better sexual understanding which has helped her sex life. Picture: Facebook

She added that she now has “orgasms during sex with my partner that I never thought I would ever experience.”

She has now set up her own business, Sensual Touch Massage, to help other women with issues.

“I now don’t feel like I’m disappointing my partner or myself even when I don’t orgasm, we both just enjoy the sex and don’t fixate on the ‘orgasm goal’, this is when it most often actually does happen.”

This article originally appeared in The Sun and was republished with permission.

Henry Sapiecha

Published by Henry, on June 10th, 2018 at 10:49 am. Filled under: ORGASMS,SEX LESSONS,SEX PROBLEMS,SEX SERVICES,SEX THERAPISTS. Tags: , , , , | No Comments |

Male Porn-star reveals the best sex secrets we’ve all been just dying to find out [12 Pics]


Chances are you’ may recognize legendary adult entertainer Johnny Sins. He’s the guy who has performed with some of the hottest porn stars in the business, with his Greek god-like physique and bald head surging away as one of the top actors in the industry. We recently hit him up for an interview and we’re thrilled when he agreed to hand out the goodies. This man is on his way to the hall-of-fame.

Just a heads up, we get extremely detailed with his secrets so you may want to put the kids to bed before you read this. So take notes, your significant other half may appreciate it.

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1…Absolutely! I use a combo of mental and physical attributes to prolong sex. If I feel like I am going to climax too early I’ll start with mentally getting my mind off of how good it feels. Basically distract yourself with math, baseball, anything that gets your mind off it for that time. That might not be the most fun method though since you really should be enjoying the sex. I really only do this on set. Physically, my go-to moves are to thrust deep and hold it for a few seconds, or as long as you need until that climax feeling goes away. Another method I use is to just pull out and go down and eat the girl out, she’ll love it and think you just love her pussy that much that you had to taste her. Once the “oh shit I’m going to cum too soon” feeling goes away, go back at it and repeat!

2…I think it’s extremely important. I manscape about once a week but if I’m doing a scene I shave everything clean in the morning. I don’t like the bald look so I leave the top pubes and shave my balls, shaft, anywhere with hair. It’s just very visually pleasing on camera plus I want my partner to be able to lick, suck, and fuck any part of me without any drama.

3…This completely depends on the person you are asking! If it’s with your partner don’t make it about a specific person, make it about the experience you can share together. Your partner will not want to have a threesome with someone they think you have a crush on so try to choose someone neutral or even someone you don’t even know. Always pay attention to both people in the threesome equally, maybe just a little more to your partner. Make them feel special by making eye contact with them even though you might be fucking someone else. Make them feel as comfortable as possible and you could find yourself having a lot more fun threesomes!

Most plus size women I come across are very so horny and ready to please!

Foreplay is awesome and I don’t know why any guy wouldn’t want to do it. When you find the right spots you can make your partner cum at will! Find the gspot, suck on her clit, eat her arse in just the right way and she’ll be cumming before you even think about penetrating her. A lot of guys get nervous they aren’t going to be able to make the girl orgasm, but if she cums before you even penetrate you can wind back and enjoy the ride. Go slow at first every girl has different eroginous spots but once you find them she is putty in your hands or fingers or tongue!

I’m not a very vocal guy in the cot but if the girl likes dirty talk it’s not hard to come up with a few interesting things to say. For basic dirty talk you can just describe what’s going on, such as “my cock is so hard for you, I’m going to slide it in your tight little pussy cunt nice and slow, inch by inch until I’m deep inside you and make you cum all over my dick, cum all over it, I want to feel your cum gushing all around that cock” or something like that! It’s also hot when you whisper in her ear as you are fucking, things like, “your pussy feels so good, my dick is throbbing for you”, or “I’m going to fuck you until you cum everywhere and can’t walk straight & knees are trembling”. Don’t talk too much though or you might be annoying and ruin the vibe!

Yes absolutely get out of the bedroom! Change it up, make things more interesting and more exciting! Sex in the same place can become mundane, don’t get stuck in the rut of only fucking in the bedroom. Some of my favorite places for sex outside the bedroom are the shower, you are already naked, and wet, bend her over and fuck her doggystyle as the hot water runs over your bodies. Outdoors or in semi-public places like dressing rooms or bathrooms are also another favorite spot. Nothing is hotter than being out and so horny you have to fuck right there in the public bathroom. My girl, Kissa and I once got kicked out of the Cosmopolitan Hotel in Vegas for fucking in the men’s room of the casino! A janitor cleaned the stall beside us and must have reported us because security was waiting for us as we left! Another favourite place of ours in the car. We go on dates and she gives me road head on the way to dinner or wherever and we usually end up fucking in the back seat before the date even starts!

Both are equally important but I think chemistry is very important. Even the most beautiful girls can come across ugly and unattractive if they have a bad personality or attitude. You still have to be attracted to the other person but a great personality trumps beautiful looks any day! Find a partner with both and you have struck the jackpot.

In my experience, most girls love to have their arse licked and played with while getting fucked. Start slow and get her comfortable. Always lick her ass when your performing oral, go back and forth, lick her ass and rub her clit at the same time. Touch around her asshole when you’re in doggy or cowgirl and when she’s comfortable with it slide the tip of your finger in. Girls cum a lot with the extra stimulation of a finger in the booty! Once they realize how good it feels they will want to feel what it’s like to get fucked in the ass. Most girls absolutely love it but there will be some that consider that exit only!

Start slow, get the pussy nice and wet with your spit. Gently lick her clit with your tongue, work it up, don’t go to hard at first. Lick all the way from her clit to her ass and back and forth. Gently nibble on her clit, test it out and nibble a little harder finding just the right amount of pressure, suck her clit, open her pussy and bury your tongue deep inside, suck on her pussy, work every area focusing on her clit. When she’s close to orgasm, if you’re doing it right, she will be, don’t change, do exactly what you’re doing until she cums in your mouth. Suck her pussy, suck all the cum out and feel what it’s like to have your head in a vice, her legs are so tight around it. Then passionately make out with her with her juices all over your mouth, letting her know how good she tastes.

It’s hard to explain but girls that just have a little extra something, their vibe is chill but they are also confident in their own skin. I think that’s sexy. I also love girls that take care of themselves, like working out and eating healthy but also don’t need to put a full face of makeup on every day to feel sexy. Casually hot, I like to call it.

Henry Sapiecha


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What actually happens to your body when you stop having sex

Intimacy and physical contact are things humans need to survive, and yes that involves a little action between the sheets. Maybe it has been a little while since you’ve done the deed? Perhaps you and your partner have lost a bit of the sparkle from your love life. Or maybe you’re newly single or simply don’t have the time to date. It’s also possible you’re just focused on other things in your life and don’t feel like you’re missing out by not having sex.

Irrestective of the reason behind the lack of lovemaking in your life, if you’ve noticed any sudden changes in your mood or your body, it might be wise to get back in the game. It turns out not having sex can actually cause some changes in your body and, sure, some of the changes you experience might be pretty pleasant, but we can tell you for certain that the vast majority of them are not. Here’s what you can probably expect to happen if making love has taken a backseat in your life.

You might have a wet dream or two

Like an over-hormonal teenage boy, women who aren’t having sex regularly may find that their body will remind them what they’re missing iwhile they sleep. That’s right, we’re talking about what teenage boys might call having a wet dream. This is especially likely to happen if your sex life is not only at a standstill, but you’ve also given up on self masturbating.

Researchers had it easy when they were studying nocturnal emissions in men, the most obvious reason being because men have erections that are visible and ejaculate as proof that they’ve climaxed. With women, studying these night time bouts of arousal was far more complex.

Studies done to collect data on female arousal during their sleep, they had to measure heart rate, do brain scans, and watch for temperature jumps near the clitoris. While it wasn’t easy, they managed to get it done and later revealed in a study reported by Broadly that 37 percent of women will have a wet dream before the age of 45 and that they’re most common in women between the ages of 40 and 50. So, if it’s been a while since you’ve gotten lucky, you can expect these little goodies to find their way into your subconscious.

Your stress levels go through the roof

According to Psychology Today, the endorphins released during sex are ideal for leaving your worries behind and putting an instant smile on your face. So when you’ve gone a while without any nookie, you might notice that your stress levels start to build up.

If you’re not one to get off as often as you’d like, have no fear! It’s not only those endorphins that help reduce stress levels, it’s those acrobatic moves we attempt in the bedroom also. Sex can be a form of exercise, which we all know fights off stress and anxiety, so if you aren’t getting any these days, try not to skip your cardio workouts.

If it wasn’t bad enough that without sex you’re feeling overstressed, you might also have high blood pressure. One study determined that those who had sex over a two week period had significantly lower blood pressure levels than those who were without sex or even compared those who masturbated or participated in sexual activities that excluded intercourse. So even taking care of things yourself or making out a bit won’t help your stress levels very much. In this case, women actually do require a partner.

Your immune system suffers

Seems like having sex provides some key benefits to our health, but when we’re not romping around in the sheets with our partner, we actually more susceptible to getting sick too. According to the Mayo Clinic, the DHEA, or Dehydroepiandrosterone, hormone is released during arousal, with even more released when you orgasm. This hormone gives your immune system a bit of a boost, helping your body to fight against bacteria, viruses, and other pretty nasty germs.

While not having sex certainly doesn’t mean you’re going to come down with some major illness, you’ll be missing out on some of these other great benefits as well. The DHEA hormone is also found to act as an antidepressant, make your skin look great, help repair any damaged skin tissue faster, and even increase apprehension and learning abilities.

A study of college students also stated that higher levels of immunoglobulin A, an antibody that is important for immune function, in those who had sex at least once or twice a week when compared to those who didn’t. So, no sex means no antibody to fight off that flu bug you have contracted!

You feel miserable & depressed

Apparently Semen is the new antidepressant. That sounds like something a guy would say to get a girl into bed, but it’s true! Psychology Today reported on a study in which 293 SUNY Albany female students were surveyed on their sex habits, such as frequency and whether or not they used a condom. They then gave the same women the Beck Depression Inventory to evaluate their moods and levels of depression.

It turns out that those who were having sex without a condom were significantly less depressed than those who were using condoms or not having sex at all. When the mood elevating compounds found in semen are absorbed by the vaginal walls, they can literally cheer a woman up. Who knows?! Great Theory..

Ceasing sexual intercourse is also often due to a breakup, which can cause depression on its own. Dr. Lauren Streicher, author of Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever explains, “You might be depressed because your boyfriend cheated on you and your life is in the toilet, but the specific lack of sexual activity is in no way going to cause [clinical] depression, even though there’s a substantial correlation.”

You lose your libido & sex drive

While “use it or lose it” may be true here, women don’t actually lose anything they can’t get back, at least while we’re still in our baby-making years. According to an article in Prevention, when your body stops having the feelings associated with orgasms, it simply just makes adjustments to not being given those feelings and stops seeking them out.

If you aren’t too keen on losing your sex drive for even a short while, self masturbation should do the trick. Sex therapist Holly Richmond, who has a PhD in Somatic Psychology even said, “People who are comfortable masturbating tend to be more thoughtful and giving lovers,” so don’t be shy!

Feel grateful you’re a woman in this regard, as men actually can lose it if they don’t use it. Like any other muscle in the body, studies have shown that when a man doesn’t exercise his “Johnson” for an extended period of time, he’s more likely to develop erectile dysfunction because sex helps to strengthen blood vessels and nerve fibers that are necessary for men to have an erection.

Your vaginal walls get weaker

It appears that women over the age of 50 or so, risk not feeling any pleasure during sex if they don’t have intercourse regularly. Typically, the vaginal walls will get thin and weaken to the point of tearing while entering menopause, making sex extremely painful. The best way to prevent this from happening is to keep doing the deed well into retirement. Dr. Streicher told Reader’s Digest that thinning of the vaginal walls is due to lack of blood flow, which can be increased by sexual arousal and penetration.

“Older women who are not having intercourse are more likely to have thinning and drying of the tissues,” she said. “A big part of this is blood flow, and we know increased activity increases blood flow.”

If painful sex isn’t bad enough, a side effect of the weakening of a woman’s vaginal walls is difficulty creating natural lubricant, making sex after a long dry spell not only painful but frustratingly dry. In this case, doctors have said if you don’t use it then you will lose it, so end your dry spell and hop in bed with your partner ASAP! You’re never too old to get your sex jollies.

Your risk of getting a UTI decreases

Urinary tract infections are no laughing matter. They’re painful, frustrating, and seemingly never-ending. Have you ever noticed that nearly every time you’ve gotten an infection it was right after having sex? That’s because research has shown that 80 percent of UTIs form within 24 hours of sexual intercourse, according to The New York Times. Most commonly, women will get an infection when having sex for the first time after a long period of time without getting it on. Even two or three weeks can be considered a long time, so even being away from a partner for a short while can leave women at risk for a UTI.

Likely the only positive thing that comes out of a long dry spell is the fact that you’re pretty much in the clear when it comes to getting this nasty infection, but once you start being active in the bedroom again, you’re almost guaranteed to get one. Seems like you may be dealing with a double edged sword.

You put on weight

You might not know just how many calories you’re burning in between the sheets, but you might notice it after the sex has stopped. According to Woman’s Day, light kissing only burns about 68 calories per hour, but you can burn around 476 calories making out in the same amount of time. Apparently the anticipation of these kisses leading to more than just heavy petting causes us to breathe heavier, resulting in more calories burned!

Giving your partner a sensual massage is not only great for setting the mood, but will help you burn 80 calories in just an hour. When foreplay starts to get frisky, hand stuff will burn about 100 calories in an hour, but giving oral will burn twice as much at about 200 calories. Sex itself will burn at least 144 calories in a half hour, but that’s if you’re rather  lazy and letting your guy or gal do all the work. Changing positions, taking control on top, and even moaning every so often will burn significantly more.

That’s about 1,200 calories a week you could be burning if you had sex three or four times, which is lot of extra calories you’re no longer burning if you give up doing the deed! So if you go from having regular sex to none, then you may notice that you’ve gained a few extra pounds.

Your brain turns mushy

Memory loss and absent mindedness are huge side effects of going without sex. Sex strengthens & boosts the functionality of the hippocampus, which is a small part of the brain that assists with your long-term memory. During sex, new neurons are produced by this section of the brain, which significantly help you with your memory issues, according to at least one report. When the sex stops for an extended period of time, this boost in your memory and cognitive functions disappear.

Before you start thinking that having daily sex will give you a photographic memory, understand that the hippocampus isn’t responsible for your complete memory bank. An article published in Broadly reported on a study in which 78 women were asked to analyze abstract words as well as neutral faces.

The study found that women who had regular sex were able to remember the words better than those who weren’t having sex, but neither group was able to remember the faces well because memory of images rely on a different area of the brain. This was only found to occur in women, not men, and can explain why women who just get out of a relationship and aren’t having sex can seem to be a little absent-minded.

You won’t contract an STI…most likely

We’ve all had our scares and found ourselves visiting a health clinic, admitting to a stranger in a lab coat how many partners we’ve had over the years and listing all the symptoms we’re experiencing that have convinced us we have an infection. Usually it’s just a yeast infection or the result of some seriously tight jeans, but not having sex means you no longer have to worry — about most STIs at least.

While going without sex is the only way to be sure you won’t get HIV, many people don’t know that you can contract by some infections through practically any form of sexual contact. That’s right, you can get herpes from simply making out with someone.

The Huffington Post makes a hilarious, but true, statement about getting a sexually transmitted infection without having sex saying, “Even grandmother kissing you at Christmas might pass on cold sores (a herpes virus).” So, while you can certainly worry less about STIs when you’re not having sex, that doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t have to worry about them completely.

You may doubt your relationship

When you are in a relationship and the sex starts to wane somewhat, you may be left feeling insecure and distant. Studies have shown that married couples who do not have regular sex have greater divorce rates. A study in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that even unmarried couples are at risk. Couples who live together who stop having sex are also more at risk for breaking up. While it’s difficult to state whether relationship problems cause a decrease in sexual activity or if less action in the bedroom leads to relationship problems, they’re certainly related.

“Going without sex in a marriage can deliver a hit to your self-esteem, engender guilt, and decrease levels of oxytocin and other bonding hormones,” Psychologist Les Parrott told Prevention. “It can also increase fears that one of you will look to others for your sexual needs, which can breed a little paranoia.” If the sex activity has been lacking in your relationship, talk to your partner before it takes on a life of its own.

Your workouts won’t be as effective

It turns out that a great night of libido exchange with your partner could also lead to a great workout the next morning. This is because the hormones released during sex help with pain tolerance, motivation, and better sleep. During an orgasm, the hormone dopamine is released, and this little friend makes you feel good and helps get you up and moving. That means you’ll be more likely to get up and get to your workout and you might even be able to push through a bit more discomfort on the treadmill than normal. If you suddenly lose that happy source of dopamine in the bedroom, your workout motivation may go down the charts.

Supermodel Miranda Kerr once confessed that she wasn’t as toned after going through her divorce, because she was no longer having sex. “One thing I’ve noticed is now that I’m having less sex my body isn’t as toned,” she told Women’s Health. “The more sex I have, the more defined my arms and stomach get.” Hey, if it can happen to a Victoria’s Secret model, it can happen to anyone!

You’ll tap into your partner’s feelings

One of the things that physical intimacy does for us is open us up to other types as intimacy as well. That’s one of the reasons why when we think of a relationship without sex, we can’t help but believe those two individuals must be distant in other ways as well. Not having sex is a symptom of a serious relationship problem, right? While a lack of intimacy might indicate an issue in some relationships, it’s sometimes par for the course after having a baby. What’s more, not having sex might even help new parents tap into their partner’s feelings a bit more in some cases.

A study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that postpartum women who had not resumed sex yet were actually more concerned with their partner’s needs and feelings about sex than their own. The new mothers reported focusing more on their partner’s desire and fatigue levels, and that was the biggest predictor of when they would feel ready to restart sexual activity.

You’ll learn new coping skills

There’s a silver lining to be found in most situations, and that would include what happens to you when you stop having sex for a while. We’ve noted how making love can keep our stress levels in check, so you’d think that not having that intimacy and stress-buster in your life would leave you completely at a loss. It appears, however, that if you aren’t having the sex that you desire, it forces you to cope with that stress and learn new ways to do so.

A study in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that when individuals who wanted sex found themselves in a celibate relationship, they learned new coping skills to keep themselves going. They also remained in hope that sex would return, keeping them feeling positive. So look on the bright side. At least you’re growing as an individual!

The study didn’t address people who are single and therefore not seeing any action, but like those in celibate relationships, let’s stay hopeful.

Henry Sapiecha