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Regular sex is good for the heart muscle – but only if you’re a male, scientists say

Frequent sex is good for the heart because it reduces the levels of a harmful chemical in the blood, scientists believe – but the effect is only seen in men.

Having sex several times a week can lead to better circulation and healthier blood vessels in men, which researchers say is crucial for preventing a build-up of the chemical homocysteine.

But scientists say women benefit much less because female sexual arousal is less dependent on having a healthy blood flow, which is a key factor in keeping homocysteine under control.

Heart disease is the biggest killer in Britain.

In Australia more people are killed by cancer each year but in 2015, the most recent year for which detailed data is available, heart disease was responsible for the deaths of 21,937 men and 23,455 women.

Doctors have long suspected that frequent sex can reduce the risks, but the latest findings, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, are the first to show it works by driving down homocysteine levels.

The chemical is a vital building block of proteins and occurs naturally in the body.

But excess levels, which can be caused by poor diet, are thought to damage blood vessels supplying the heart – raising the risk of a deadly clot forming.

Researchers from the National Defence Medical Centre in Taiwan tracked more than 2000 men and women, aged from 20 to 59.

They analysed blood samples to measure levels of homocysteine and matched the results up with volunteers’ sexual activity.

The results showed the lowest traces of the chemical were found in men claiming to have sex at least twice a week, while the highest readings were found in those restricted to less than once a month.

But in women there was no significant variation.

Researchers called on doctors to advise male patients at risk of heart disease to have more sex.

In a report on their findings they said: “This is the first study of its kind to evaluate the correlation between sexual frequency and homocysteine levels.

“A good quality sex life, frequent sex and libido are all related to health in the middle-aged and elderly.

“Increased sexual frequency could have a protective effect on general health and quality of life – especially in men – so doctors should support patients’ sexual activity.”

Dr Mike Knapton from the British Heart Foundation said the study produced an “interesting result” but did not prove regular sex reduced homocysteine levels.

He said: “A relationship does exist between sex and heart disease risk.

“Checking your blood pressure and cholesterol, as well as keeping active and not smoking, remain the best ways to ensure a healthy future.”

A major review of scientific data in 2015 found raised homocysteine levels increased the risk of death from heart disease by 66 per cent.

And last year experts at Boston University discovered the chances of a stroke jumped by almost a third in those with high readings.

It has also been linked with Alzheimer’s disease and cancer.

Published by Henry, on June 27th, 2017 at 8:20 pm. Filled under: HEALTHY SEX,MEN,SEX DRIVE & VIAGRA. Tags: , , , | No Comments |

What escort work in Australia really looks like: Stories from those in the know

SBS Life spoke with two Australian escorts to get the real story about what it means to be an escort in 2017, and they each paint a very different picture.

Thematic warning: This article contains content of an adult nature and therefore its access should be restricted to person’s above age 18. 

Lulu Valentine*, a Sydney-based escort, describes her job as ‘girlfriend by the hour’.

“To put it simply, I am paid to provide sexual services to my clients,” Valentine tells SBS.

“However, in reality, what happens is – I am paid for my time, and it is up to those who are paying for it as to how they wish to spend it.

“Our job is to provide pleasure, which can be interpreted in a lot of different ways.”

“…sex work is not always luxurious, or exciting, or profitable.”

What some escorts do

Valentine explains that, unlike some people, she always had a realistic view of what ‘sex work’ entailed before starting out in the industry four years ago. She was never of the belief that sex work was sex-free: a fact and practice which she now thinks is sometimes misrepresented within certain parts the industry.

“My knowledge of sex work was limited to what I had watched, and read – which as, I have, come to find, are often gross misrepresentations of what the industry is actually like,” says Valentine.

“For the purposes of consumption, authors and screenwriters tend to glamourise, and, over indulge in different parts of the industry. For instance, when sex work is portrayed in media, it often smooths over the more arbitrary details of the job, which I think creates a different reality – sex work is not always luxurious, or exciting, or profitable.”

Social perceptions surrounding the world of escorting are, perhaps, fuelled by pop culture and media portrayals of the industry. The hugely popular Netflix series You, Me, Her is one of the latest in a long string of shows based around the work of escorting. Joining series such as The Girlfriend Experience, Secret Diary of a Callgirl, and Satisfaction; You, Me, Her takes on the escorting industry in broad strokes, eliminating much of the reality of the sex work involved. Sure, there’s plenty of sex in the show, but how much of it is the emotion-free type that sex workers are paid for? None.

The Canadian series focuses around the polyamorous relationship of married couple, Emma and Jack Trakarsky; and a 25-year-old college student and part-time escort, Izzy. Jack meets Izzy when he books her for a ‘job’. Instead of having a night of sex, they engage in hours of deep conversation. Sex, it seems from this show, is an optional part of the escort gig.

Man on bed next to red knickers

These men [who I see] are [often] fully aware that they are booking for and paying for sexual services…”

Claudia Cadine*, a Melbourne-based escort, says despite Hollywood notions of what escorts do, she’s never had any misconceptions about the nature of her work – it’s to have sex. Not fall in love.

Cadine tells SBS that, like Valentine, she also offers the ‘girlfriend experience’ involving a narrative that replicates a real life relationship. She goes on dates, goes to cocktails and attends events with her ‘boyfriend’ client. But, as she points out, this is almost always followed by the expectation of sex.

“A client’s end goal is usually sexual contact; some men prefer to use escorts for direct sexual exchanges (most want it to seem like the woman is enjoying it, or happy enough that she doesn’t hate herself because of her work), and some men prefer a more romantic interlude that seems like a real date,” explains Cadine.

“These men [who I see] are [often] fully aware that they are booking for and paying for sexual services,” she says, “but I suspect that the prelude enables them to think of what they are doing as being something different, or ‘better’.”

Official sex work: who’s doing it?

Given the transient and often secretive nature of the industry, there are no official statistics on the demographic of Australian sex workers.

However, Scarlet Alliance (the Australian Sex Workers Association) estimates there are roughly 20,000 sex workers at any given time in Australia.

“In terms of absolute numbers of people working in the sex industry, it is a difficult one to estimate as many people move in and out of sex work and others may move overseas,” CEO Jules Kim tells SBS.

“As an estimate – as that is really all you could hope for in determining numbers within sex work – you could say that there are roughly 20,000 sex workers at any given time in Australia.”

“I genuinely enjoy the company of my clients and the social interaction, the ability to work closely one-on-one with others,” says Cadine.

Despite popular representations of escorts being young, white, and female; Kim says that it is far more diversified across both ethnicity and gender.

“In terms of racial backgrounds, there is a broad diversity of people working in the sex industry,” says Kim. “Our research into migrant sex workers in Australia identified a large number of birth countries that sex workers came from.”

What do ‘they’ look like?

Valentine, who is of Middle Eastern and Asian descent, says popular notions of what an escort might look like are often whitewashed.

She explains that many women of non-Caucasian background who are involved in sex work are rarely portrayed with the same sense of glamour, or power, or prestige on television as Caucasian women. They are invariably portrayed as trapped, forced to work in the industry under duress. Sex slaves, not escorts in control of their own destinies.

“As a person of colour, I can probably say that I think most roles, especially ones of power, are portrayed in film and television, by cis-gendered, Caucasian people – this is not specific to sex work,” says Valentine.

“Perhaps in the past, the white, cis-gendered, educated woman was the most desirable person to represent the industry, because it would be easier for the public to digest this as a figurehead for sex workers. If you think about it, historically, the representation of ethnic, or non-cisgendered within the industry tended to be the oppressed stereotypes – the trafficked woman from Asia or Eastern Europe; the African-American woman who is enslaved by a pimp, or the queer survivalist ‘prostitute’.”

“As a person of colour working in the sex industry in Australia, I would have to say that my experiences are quite privileged.”

On the contrary, Valentine says that her experience has been one of safety and respect – conditions that not all sex workers have access to.

“As a person of colour working in the sex industry in Australia, I would have to say that my experiences are quite privileged – I am still subject to the occasional client with a desire to fetishise me based on my heritage, and the occasional racist remark.

“But I think also because of my good command of English, and my having been brought up to be no different culturally than my Caucasian counterparts, I am not subject to the same experiences as other ethnically diverse workers without these luxuries.”

How they do what they do

Despite the misconceptions surrounding the escorting world, Cadine says that after a longstanding career in the industry, she wouldn’t have it any other way.

“I genuinely enjoy the company of my clients and the social interaction, the ability to work closely one-on-one with others,” says Cadine.

“The freedom, flexibility and the security of choosing my own hours is appealing to me, as is earning a higher income without spending hours per week in the office. I would be lying if I said that the financial side was not a large aspect in the benefits on the work. I would not work as a sex worker for free, but then, the majority of people would never work for free.”

“Go to the main mall in your city. Turn and look behind you and think – you have to have sex with this man. Always my first tip.”

Cadine advises women considering escort work to come to grips with the reality of the profession before signing up.

“Go to the main mall in your city. Turn and look behind you and think – you have to have sex with this man. Always my first tip,” says Cadine.

Rather than prescribing to the ‘cleaned up’ version of escorting being touted on mainstream television, women should be sure to make their own decision regarding the work.

Some women might really enjoy the job and it may even exceed their expectations. This is not about judgement, right or wrong but ensuring Hollywood myths don’t override your own day-to-day on the job experience.

“I’ve seen this unfortunate trend where girls thinking that it’s fashionable or some really cool gig where they will just sleep with silver foxes with big bank accounts.

“They chuck on some L’Agent lingerie, start an Instagram get cupcakes at fancy hotels with their other sex worker friends, and essentially love a lifestyle where they tag photos at the Grand Hyatt drinking an overpriced cocktail with a view…They are attracted to a fantasy.”

*Not their real names. 

Want to explore the world of escorting? Watch Payday on Viceland, Thursday 20 July at 9pm. The episode will be available to watch on SBS On Demand after broadcast. Payday is a new series airing on Viceland every Thursday at 9pm, debuting on 15 June.

Published by Henry, on June 19th, 2017 at 7:47 pm. Filled under: INTERVIEWS,PROSTITUTION,SEX STORIES,SEX WORKERS,WORK SEX. Tags: , , | No Comments |

Roxy founder reveals her life as a Saudi billionaire’s pleasure wife

BILLIONAIRE Saudi Arabian arms dealer Adnan Khashoggi is best known for his roles in some of the most infamous political scandals of the 1980s.

They include the Iran-Contra affair (he was a key middleman in the arms-for-hostages exchange) and accusations that he concealed funds alongside Philippines First Lady Imelda Marcos. Khashoggi was acquitted on federal charges of obstruction of justice and mail fraud after more serious charges of racketeering and conspiracy were dropped.

But the 81-year-old, who now lives in Monaco, was also a womaniser with multiple wives and a bevy of beautiful girls at his beck and call. Among them was young American model Jill Dodd. Ahead of the June 6 publication of her memoir, The Currency of Love: A Courageous Journey to Finding the Love Within, Dodd — now 57 and a fashion designer — shares her story of sex, drugs and life as a member of Khashoggi’s harem.

SITTING on the bed in our Middle Eastern kaftans, I knew it was only a matter of time before one of us leaned in for a kiss. After all, we’d been dancing around each other for more than a month.

But Adnan, who had just watched me in the nude, taking a bubble bath, held my face in his hands.

“We can’t kiss until I tell you the situation,” he said. “I want you to be one of my pleasure wives. By Saudi Arabian law, I’m allowed to have 11 pleasure wives and three legal wives.

“I won’t kiss you until you agree to this contract.”

“Yes,” I say and we seal the agreement as our lips meet. In that moment, I become a member of Adnan’s harem, taking turns with other women to have sex with the man I love.

It was fashion modelling that allowed me to mingle with movers and shakers like Adnan. I’d grown up middle-class — my dad a fireman, my mum a secretary — in Downey, California, near downtown Los Angeles.

In 1976, when I was 17 years old and 5-foot-9, I answered an ad in the LA Times for a fit model. Before long, I was modelling swimsuits for magazines and catalogues. I joined a not-so-good local agency but then got lucky and signed with the prestigious Wilhelmina Models when I was 20.

The agency dispatched me to Paris, even though I didn’t have the signature 80s look of big blonde hair and perfect teeth. I was a size 6 and curvier than most models of the time.

The Currency of Love: A courageous journey to finding the love within. Book by Jill Dodd. Picture: Simon and Schuster

Nevertheless, I started getting high-profile jobs. I was on the cover of Olympe magazine in France and made it into the French editions of Vogue and Marie Claire.

Then, in August 1980, I accompanied my booker, Pepper­*, on a weekend jaunt to Monte Carlo and one of her friends invited us to a party in Cannes. The venue was Le Pirate, where long-haired, shirtless waiters strummed guitars and banged tambourines. A crackling bonfire, 20 feet high, lit up the night sky. A “pirate” handed me a glass of Champagne, which I swigged before throwing the glass into the fire, just like all the other guests. It was so wild and decadent.

That’s when I noticed a man smiling and watching me. He reminded me of my friend’s dad. He brought over a chair and sat down. His short stature, round tummy and balding head made me glad he wasn’t a younger guy who was obviously trying to sleep with me.

Adnan Khashoggi is a well known arms dealer and Saudi Arabian billionaire.

It was too loud to talk so he pulled me up to dance. The pirates circled us and the guests clapped with the music. Suddenly, my dance partner stopped, grabbed a chair and threw it into the fire. I hurled one in too. We laughed and slammed together like two magnets, whirling around before the flames.

Next, the man and one of the pirates grabbed my hands and feet, scooped me up and swung me back and forth like a rag doll, my hair trailing in the dust. I totally surrendered to the spirit, euphoric with freedom.

Giddy and out of breath, I finally sat down. My new friend gazed into my eyes as he tenderly pushed up my sleeves and used his fingertips to write “I love you” in red on my forearm. It took me a minute to realise it was in blood. Accidentally or not, he had cut himself with a piece of glass.

I was stunned but I liked it. It was as if we had made some secret pact. A pirate saw the blood and whisked off the man for a bandage. I just kept looking at the message on my arm.

Pepper rushed over. “Oh my God, Jill. Do you know who that was?” Her words pulled me out of my dreamlike state. “It’s Adnan Khashoggi!” The name meant nothing to me; it was only later that I learned he was a wealthy entrepreneur and one of the most well-known men from Saudi Arabia.

The following day, I got a phone call from an acquaintance of Adnan’s. “Jill, you’re invited to Adnan’s yacht for dinner tonight. He really wants to see you,” the man said. I’d seen the boat from the shore the previous evening, all lit up and the size of the Queen Mary. I wanted to go, but I was also nervous.

“I’ll go if you come with me,” I told Pepper.

We boarded the 280-foot yacht, named Nabila after Adnan’s daughter. In 1983, it was used in the James Bond film “Never Say Never Again” and was later bought by the Sultan of Brunei; eventually, it would be owned by Donald Trump who sold it for $US20 million to pay off bankruptcy debts in 1991.

Jill Dodd has opened up about life as a Saudi billionaire’s pleasure wife. Picture: Stella Dodd/Simon and Schuster

Adnan was there to greet us. “Girls, let me take you to dress for dinner,” he said, leading us to a room lined with closets full of couture gowns. I couldn’t believe my eyes — Dior, Yves Saint Laurent, Valentino and Chanel. I chose a delicate grey Lanvin dress with a tight bodice and spaghetti straps. A pair of metallic silver shoes completed the look.

At dinner, I realised I’d never met such an intelligent, worldly and amusing man as Adnan, a 44-year-old father of five. Yes, he had incredible wealth, but he also had a peaceful kind of strength. Slowly, I was falling for his charms. With heels on, I was seven or eight inches taller than him, something which would intimidate most men. But not Adnan.

We did not kiss that night, instead talking until 5am. Adnan quizzed me about my non-existent romantic life and explained how he made his fortune exporting American-made vehicles to Saudi Arabia. He told me that the party at Le Pirate had cost him $25,000 — they send you a bill based on the destruction you caused — and that it cost around $400,000 per month to keep the yacht.

A few days later, when we were both back in Paris, Adnan invited me for lunch at his mansion. For the first time, he talked about his divorce from his ex-wife, Soraya. I later found out that he already had a second wife, Lamia, who I would meet in the beginning of 1981. Not surprisingly, given my romantic relationship with her husband by then, she seemed stand-offish. That summer, when I attended the birthday party for their one-year-old son, she was equally cold.

Over the next few weeks, Adnan wined and dined me — always allowing me to pick out a couture outfit from his collection — but there were other girls in the picture. Some of them looked so young, they could have been assumed to be high schoolers.

It was in late September 1980 at Adnan’s expansive estate near Marbella, Spain — where Adnan had me and a girl named Sabine (who I later found out was another of his love interests) flown in on his private DC-9 jet — that the “contract” was agreed upon. I’d been there for one week horseriding before he arrived from his travels. I was awoken in the middle of the night by Adnan, who then drew me a bath and sat on a stool next to the tub. We had another deep conversation and, after snorting cocaine, he questioned how and when I’d lost my virginity.

After I agreed to be his “pleasure wife,” we had sex. Even though he was 24 years older than me, he was an extraordinary lover.

As the months went by, I just wanted to be with Adnan and didn’t care about the details. He was my boyfriend. Even though there were other women around, I didn’t know who was a fellow pleasure wife, a casual lover or a flirtatious friend. There was no real relationship between us females.

Adnan Khashoggi, arms dealer and Saudi Arabian billionaire, was allowed 11 pleasure wives.

When we visited Adnan’s compound in Kenya, there was just one other pleasure wife on the trip. Sometimes, however, there were larger groups of women — between five and eight on any occasion. We seldom mixed but when we did, usually at business dinners, there was an undercurrent of rivalry. As long as I sensed I was Adnan’s favourite and was placed opposite him at dinner, I couldn’t help feeling superior.

I also felt independent because I continued to pursue my modelling career — a job that Adnan disapproved of, but couldn’t stop me from doing. It wasn’t long before I decided to move back to Los Angeles, so the place I visited Adnan most was his villa in Las Vegas. As my true passion was fashion design, in March 1981 I enrolled at the Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising, with Adnan paying my tuition.

When it came to his business, I was completely ignorant. I knew he met with world leaders like Ronald Reagan. He sometimes talked about aircraft deals with Saudi Arabia but, as a 21-year-old child, I wasn’t interested.

But things started to turn sour. I’ll never forget in August 1981 when Adnan came into my suite at midnight, set a box on the bedside table and kissed my forehead. I woke up and turned toward him. When he saw my face, he whispered: “Oh, I have the wrong room. Sorry, go back to sleep. Keep the gift.” Before I could respond, he was gone. My heart dropped. He had thought I was another girl.

There was no joy opening the gift meant for someone else. Inside was an 18-karat solid gold necklace. I pictured Adnan and the other girl making love and physically ached. Doubt started to sink in and I wondered if I could handle the harem any longer.

Another time, I declined a 20-carat diamond ring, which felt too opulent. Later, Adnan gave it to his house manager. I thought: “Maybe that ring didn’t mean much to him.”

By the beginning of 1982, I noticed a change in the type of girls who showed up at the dinners. They were less sophisticated models from Hollywood agencies. Not at all like the stunning female doctor, also a pleasure wife, whom he had put through medical school while also funding my design courses.

Adnan Khashoggi enjoyed opulent parties, and invited Jill into his inner circle.

I felt increasingly weird about it all. I worried about AIDS, as we all did at the time. I didn’t really know who else Adnan was sleeping with and it terrified me. Another driving force was my need to be independent. I felt that accepting large gifts might mean I owed Adnan, rather than it just being a simple romance.

Our relationship ended in the summer of 1982, although there was no written contract to rip up. It was an amicable split and we kept in touch by telephone for years. In 1989, I founded the surfing and snowboarding inspired clothing line Roxy and became a successful business owner.

I continued to have an affection for Adnan. I missed him and thought about him all the time. The last occasion we spoke was over the phone in 1988 when I was a single mother after my first divorce. He offered to send a plane to pick me up in California and fly me to the King of Morocco’s Palace in Monaco, where he was staying. I didn’t go because I had a jealous boyfriend. That’s my biggest regret. I should have gone, even just to say thank you for my education.

Now I’m the proud mother of a 32-year-old son and two daughters, aged 22 and 17, and live in Marin County, California, with my third husband, Jeff. We’ve been married 18 years.

When I was in my 20s, I had a sense of shame about being with Adnan. I learned that, when you’re with someone with multiple wives, people assume you’re a hooker. But I never forfeited my independence, ambition or creative expression when I was with Adnan and have no regrets.

I’ve learned a valuable lesson: Neither money nor love are worth the sacrifice of integrity, inner peace and authenticity.

*Some names have been changed.*

This story originally appeared in the New York Post and is republished with permission

Henry Sapiecha

Published by Henry, on May 29th, 2017 at 7:14 pm. Filled under: MULTIPLE PARTNERS,PLEASURE WIVES,RI. Tags: , , , , | No Comments |

Student testifies about threesome with his teachers

A former student who allegedly had a threesome with two high school teachers in Louisiana testified in court on Tuesday about the steamy romp – and admitted secretly recording one of the women sleeping after sex as “proof” to show to his fellow football players.

The unidentified student, now 19, detailed the relationship he had with former Destrehan High School teacher Shelly Dufresne, 34, that began when he was a 16-year-old student in her English class. The month-long affair began with a Facebook message from Dufresne after the teen was out sick one day in August 2014, he testified, and quickly progressed to the student and teacher kissing in a classroom within days.

“Later on that night was the first time that Shelly and I had intercourse,” the teen told Judge Danyelle Taylor of the 24th Judicial District Court on Tuesday as Dufresne’s trial began. She has pleaded not guilty to two counts of carnal knowledge of a juvenile, the Times-Picayune reports.

If convicted, Dufresne faces a maximum sentence of 10 years in prison and a $5,000 fine.

The night of their first tryst began, the teen said, when Dufresne picked up the teen from his home in the New Orleans suburb of Destrehan after a football scrimmage. He testified that the teacher then drove to an isolated location behind a daiquiri shop, where they had sex.

Prosecutors say Dufresne coordinated the trysts using a fake Facebook profile under the name “Madison Mexicano,” complete with an image of the cartoon character Speedy Gonzalez as the profile image. The cover photo also included the phrase, “I love Mexican boys,” a reference to the teen, prosecutor Rachel Africk said. The teen later testified Tuesday that he didn’t appreciate that reference, however, since he is half-Colombian and half-Caucasian.

The teen provided the court with a list of the places where he met Dufresne to have sex, including at her house in Montz, inside her Honda Pilot SUV in multiple parking lots – and in a shed at a friend’s house. The torrid romps culminated, the teen testified, with a threesome with another former Destrehan High School English teacher, 26-year-old Rachel Respess, at her apartment in Kenner.

“All three of us were in bed together,” the teen told the court. “We all started having sex.”

The teen also said he recorded video of Respess while she slept after the threesome and admitted to the court that his genitals could be seen in the footage.

“It was kind of like proof,” he testified, adding that he showed the video to some teammates on the high school football team. “I told them about it, but they didn’t believe me.”

School officials eventually learned of the threesome after rumors spread throughout the school and contacted authorities in late September. Dufresne and Respess – whose trial date has not been set for allegedly failing to report the commission of several felonies – were arrested in October 2014, the Times-Picayune reports.

Defense attorneys, meanwhile, accused the teen of committing a crime himself by recording himself touching Respess as she slept and later showing that video to his teammates. They also accused the teen of not being truthful about his relationship with Dufresne, questioning the exact date that their sexual relationship began and arguing that the dates and locations provided by authorities were incorrect.

Defense attorney Kim McElwee claimed that the alleged threesome didn’t even occur because the teen told authorities he “couldn’t get an erection,” a claim the teen denied while on the stand, the newspaper reports.

Investigators were unable to recover the alleged video of Respess sleeping because the teen admitted deleting it, as well as other photos and text messages. He did so, according to McElwee, because he knew what he did was illegal.

“You know it’s a crime to video someone without their permission?” she asked.

Earlier Tuesday, McElwee suggested that the teen threatened to expose their relationship after she corrected him in class one day.

“At any moment, I can expose this, and you can go to jail, and you’ll lose your life as you know it,” McElwee claimed the teen threatened.

And the lewd video of Respess, according to McElwee, was an act of revenge for a problem he had in her class a year earlier.

“He told the cop he got payback,” McElwee said of the teen, later telling the court he had not faced any consequences for his actions.

Prosecutors rested their case late Tuesday and Dufresne’s trial is expected to wrap up on Wednesday, the New Orleans Advocate reports. Dufresne has already pleaded guilty to a lesser charge of obscenity in St. Charles Parish, where she and the teen lived.


Man with two girlfriends: ‘three parents are better than two’

Adam Lyons, Brooke Shedd, right, and Jane Shalakhova, left, who all live as a ‘throuple‘ in Austin. Picture: News Dog Media/AustralscopeSource:australscope

A MAN and two women who live as a threesome have announced they are expecting a baby – and insist that “three parents are better than two.”

Adam Lyons was dubbed “the luckiest man alive” because he shares his life with two girlfriends, Brooke Shedd and Jane Shalakhova.

Lyons is already the father of Shedd’s son, Dante, 2, but now the London-born dad is expecting a baby boy with Shalakhova.

The threesome – who share a super-king-size bed – believe the new baby, who is due in July, will benefit from their set-up.

Lyons, 36, from East London, said: “It’s so sweet that we all get to parent and raise the kids together.”

“We have talked about it at length and we all consider ourselves parents to the children. With the kids, our titles are officially ‘Dad,’ ‘Mum’ and ‘Mum’.

“For us, three definitely works better than two.”

In fact, the threesome believes that their unusual arrangement could be the future of relationships and parenting.

Lyons, who runs his own business consulting company, Psychology Hacker, is also stepdad to Shedd’s son Oliver, 7, from a previous relationship.

He said: “For us, three people works because it enables us to manage daily life so much better.”

“So many of our friends are in ‘normal’ two-person couple relationships with kids, jobs and all the other typical responsibilities and I see them struggling to juggle their lives. It’s difficult with two people.

“But with three parents, we always have the ability for one person to look after the kids and as a result, we never begrudge each other anything because we all have lots of time.

“With three people, it’s logistically so much easier to handle all those things – we share out the responsibilities and it fits our sexual preferences too.

“When Brooke, Jane and I first came out about our relationship, we had some criticism and certain people said we wouldn’t last.

“But we’ve been going for five years now. What we have is not a fling or a phase, we’re a real family with healthy, happy kids.

“Our son Oliver doesn’t even recognise what is ‘unusual’ about our family.

“This should be the future of relationships, where people are able to enjoy love in any way they feel works. Three people and three parents makes so much sense to us.”

Mum-to-be Shalakhova, 27, says she never wanted children until she realised how much easier it was with three parents.

Shalakhova, who also works with Lyons in his business consulting company, explained: “When I had boyfriends before, I never wanted or cared about kids.

“Growing up, I always thought that when you had a baby, you became a slave to your child. You see a lot of parents struggling.

“But raising Dante with Adam and Brooke and watching him grow up with three parents around – I realise we could do it as a family. With three parents around, it’s so doable.

“With three parents, we can still have a social life, make time for one another and share the parenting tasks so you don’t end up like the typical sleep-deprived mum.

“With two partners, there’s so much help and I’ll never have to leave my kids with someone I don’t trust.”

Bisexual Shedd, 28, said: “I’m so excited for Jane’s pregnancy – I love talking to her bump. I’ve always wanted four sons so this is a dream come true.

Brooke, Jane, Adam and Dante. Picture: News Dog Media/Australscope.Source:australscope

“I think our good parenting is one of the sexiest things about our relationship. It’s incredible to see Adam and Jane with the kids and how we share all the responsibilities.

“We definitely want a few more kids and I would love to have a wedding to show my commitment to Adam and Jane.
“Oliver says he would like to get married some day too and he knows three people can be really happy together in a relationship. We’re setting a good example.”

Lyons, Shalakhova and Shedd all live together on a large plot of land in Austin, Texas, with two separate houses – one of which they use as an office and one of which Shedd uses as a homeschool where she plans to teach all the trio’s children.

Shalakhova, also bisexual, says: “We love living and working together – the family house is a one-minute walk from our office.

“Lyons and I can have meetings in the office and head back home for lunch with Shedd and the kids. It allows us to spend more time together. I love coming home and getting a kiss from Shedd, Dante and Oliver.

“My pregnancy was a planned one. We were trying for a baby – it just felt like the right time and parenting together as a threesome is a lot of fun.

“But Brooke has the primary mothering role – she looks after the children and will homeschool all the kids.”

Shedd, who works part-time for Lyons’ company, said: “Adam and I always knew I wanted to homeschool our kids.

“We both excelled at school because we found it too easy.”

“We wanted to give our children a chance to really succeed and get lots of attention. Oliver can read, write and understand things beyond a normal school academic curriculum.”

Shedd said: “Jane and Adam still really want a daughter so we’ve agreed that they should definitely try for another baby.”

“But I would definitely love to get married to Adam and Jane. It’s something we’ve always wanted even though it’s not legal.”

“Even so, it’s important that the three of us can make a commitment to each other with our family and friends around.”

Lyons said: “We haven’t got any solid plans for a wedding just yet but it’s on the cards. Prior to that, I’m bringing Shedd, Jane and the kids to England before she gives birth. I want to celebrate our pregnancy with my loved ones in Britain.”

Lyons, Shedd and Shalakhova admit they still like to involve a fourth partner in their sex life.

Lyons said: “We are still open in our relationship and we do sleep with other people outside the three of us but to be honest, we don’t have much time anymore.”

“We’re exhausted and happy with the children.”

“We’re still open to fun when it comes along. If we wanted to add someone, I’m sure we could.”

Shalakhova added: “Absolutely we still make time to go to strip clubs together. We just hang out and have fun there.”

“With three people around, it’s easy to schedule in fun activities. We always make sure we have time to do fun things together and have weekly date nights.”

“Adam, Brooke and I still sleep in the same super-king-size bed together – it still gets very hot and sweaty with the three of us.”

This article originally appeared in The Sun.

Published by Henry, on May 21st, 2017 at 10:39 am. Filled under: ARRANGEMENTS,FAMILY FRIENDS,MULTIPLE PARTNERS,PEOPLE,TREESOMES. Tags: , , , , , | No Comments |

Nihad was an Islamic State sex slave and is desperate for a new life in Australia

London:  This is the face of an asylum seeker who has been kidnapped, raped and had her baby stolen from her.

Nihad Barakat al-Awsi has applied for Australia’s protection, along with her sister, three of her brothers, her nephew, mother and sister-in-law’s family who all survived Islamic State’s attempted genocide of her people – the Yazidis of northern Iraq.

This is the face of an asylum seeker who has been kidnapped, raped and had her baby stolen from her.

Nihad Barakat al-Awsi has applied for Australia’s protection, along with her sister, three of her brothers, her nephew, mother and sister-in-law’s family who all survived Islamic State’s attempted genocide of her people – the Yazidis of northern Iraq.

Nihad and her family, she is one of 18 children, had two choices: convert to Islam or flee. Islamic State, also known as ISIL or ISIS, considers the Yazidis – whose beliefs draw from  Christianity, Islam and the ancient Zoroastrian faith of Persia  – to be “devil-worshippers.”

The family packed into cars and headed for Mount Sinjar but were captured at a checkpoint.

Nihad Barakat Shamo Al-Awsi is seeking a new life in Australia.

Nihad Barakat Shamo Al-Awsi is seeking a new life in Australia. Photo: Liliana Zaharia

In 2017-18, Australia will accept 18,750 people fleeing persecution. In March, the government announced it had granted protection visas to 12,000 people displaced by the conflict in in Syria and Iraq. Refugees who have suffered torture and trauma are offered specialist counselling services when they arrive in Australia. Nihad and her family may need them.

Nihad was one of the 6800 Yazidis now believed to have been captured to become sex slaves or fighters.

She cannot erase the mental trauma from her time under the control of the IS “monsters”.

“Several times I tried to tell my family about my sister who was being raped in front of me and she was screaming at that time, begging for my mother to come to help her.

“I can’t tell anyone about this.”

After her capture, Nihad was taken to a village on the Iraq-Syria border, where the male captives were separated from the girls and women.

She was then transferred to Mosul, where a fighter claimed her, and raped her repeatedly before his death in the battlefield nearly two months later. She was quickly “purchased” and forced to marry another “monster”, a man known as Abu Faris who already had a wife and a Yazidi girl as his slave.

Many IS slaves have died in captivity but Nihad says she clung to the hope of reuniting with her family. “I used to go to see my sisters and my brother [all in captivity] and I said, ‘Please stick to the hope that one day we will be released and we will be returned to our lives’.”

Her strength prevailed through the constant rapes and beatings but then she fell pregnant. “I thought I was carrying a small IS man,” she says.

“When I got pregnant I thought that I am weak and I am wondering and asking myself, ‘Why did this happen?'”

“I disassociated from the surroundings. I felt ‘I am lost’ but one day I managed to get a phone to call my family and from that moment I clung to the hope again.”

Nihad tried to force a miscarriage, but her son did arrive and when he did she named him Issa – Arabic for Jesus. He will turn two in July, though it is now unlikely she will ever see him again. When she escaped she had to leave Issa, then just three months old, with the father, Abu Faris. He remains in northern Iraq and has insisted on keeping the boy.

Even if Nihad had been able to take Issa with her, her people would have rejected her son, she says.

“He is part of me but he’s something from those criminals and he represents those criminals. Even if I managed to meet him again, my family and all the Yazidi people would say ‘This is a member of ISIS’,” Nihad tells Fairfax Media at the headquarters of the London-based charity the AMAR Foundation, which is supporting her rehabilitation.

“I used to carry him and I used to hug him and play with him but I have never forgot my family and I was thinking all the time about returning to my family.”

New research from the London School of Economics has found 9900 Yazidis were killed or kidnapped over the course of just a few days in August 2014. The figure is far higher than previous estimates of IS’s brutal “purification” of northern Iraq.

An estimated 3100 Yazidis were killed, with nearly half of them executed by gunshot, beheading or being burned alive. The others died from injuries, starvation and dehydration during the siege on Mount Sinjar. More than one-third of those kidnapped remain missing.

Iraq map showing Sinjar

Nihad escaped her captor because of a dispute between Abu Faris, his wife and his other Yazidi girl. In a bid to resolve the tension, Nihad was passed to Abu Faris’ cousin. From here, with the help of a group of Yazidi women, she was able to finally escape Mosul.

But although she has escaped IS slavery, Nihad says she will never feel free.

“Because Yazidi people are still there under the captivity of ISIS and because I still have a son under the captivity of ISIS, I don’t feel that I am free.”

Nihad has lost two sisters and a brother to Islamic State and two more brothers have been forced into training in fighter camps.

Despite the stigma Nihad risks in putting her face to the label of “Islamic State sex slave”, she is committed to telling the world about what she endured and the ongoing persecution her people face. “I want all the people to imagine the misery that we have passed through.”

Nihad doubts she can ever fully recover from her trauma. “Despite all the difficulty that I have suffered, I have decided to continue my life and to be a success but the sadness inside us is so deep.”

But she is hopeful she will be granted a protection visa by the end of the year and embark on a new beginning in Australia.

Nihad’s ambition is to finish her education, which she has already resumed, and return to the goals she set before IS blackened her life. “I would like to go there to continue to work to be a teacher,” she says.


Published by Henry, on May 15th, 2017 at 8:03 pm. Filled under: SEX SLAVES. Tags: , , , , , , | No Comments |

‘I’ve slept with 10,000 men’ Woman says

GWYNETH Montenegro says she has slept with more than 10,000 men.

She first stepped into a brothel at age 21, lured by the prospect of earning up to $1000 for an hour’s work. While she doesn’t regret her 12 years as a sex worker, Montenegro, 39, says she is glad to be out.

Now, she is trained in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), an approach to personal development and psychotherapy made popular by American motivational speaker Tony Robbins. She teaches women how to “understand” men and get the most out of their relationships.

Here she answers all our questions about the reality of sex work and what men really want.

How did you first get in to sex work?

“I never wanted to get into the sex industry in the first place. I was 18, I went out to a nightclub and my drink was spiked and I got taken away and gang raped by 6-8 men – I can’t remember exactly how many because I was so out of it.

“It kind of changed my opinion about myself. I felt I wasn’t worthy anymore, that I wasn’t good enough. I came from a Christian family and I was saving myself for marriage and then I got raped. So I went the other way … I was very promiscuous. I ended up in the table top dancing industry when I was 19.”

How did you transition from stripping to being paid for sex?

“I felt that I’d already crossed a line when I stripped, so it didn’t seem that far off at the time.

“I thought ‘Oh well, if I don’t like it, I can always walk out after the first shift’.

“It was totally surreal. Once you’ve been paid for sex once, you can’t take that back. I just found I was able to compartmentalise and switch my feelings off, because I already felt dirty.

“The money was really good and the money is what kept me in the industry for all those years. I don’t recommend anyone do it.”

How much did you charge?

“I would charge $500-$1000 an hour – that depended on the services. Usually you had to do quite a bit for that.

“I was so young and naive when I started out. I was a good country girl. I was so surprised when someone paid me for sex. I wasn’t very experienced and the ladies told me ‘Our basic thing is basic sex and a massage’.

“I was naive, I didn’t even know what the ‘extras’ were. Over time I would do other things, like I was able to do kissing and toys and dress ups.”

Did you ever have to do anything really crazy?

“A lot of them don’t want all this hardcore kinky sex – that’s such a small percentage of the men. I was in the industry for 12 years – that’s a long time. But I didn’t see a lot of the men that had these sick fantasies. Most of it was just normal sex.”

Was it always just about sex or did the men want emotional comfort too?

“It’s more than just sex. There’s always a psychological motivation for sex, it’s not just a physical urge. A lot of the clients I would see would be an hour plus and I mean sure, they wanted the sex, but a big part of my job was just talking.

“There was always some sort of psychological game from it. There was always a feeling of … you could sort of tell they felt more validated as a man or some of them felt like ‘I can control you’. They’d walk out with this strut.”

Why do you think men seek out sex workers?

“Because that man feels emasculated in his relationship, he wants to feel masculine again.

“They’re seeking validity for their virility. Virility is very important to men.

“There’s also a group of men who want to play the game. They get an intense delight out of controlling women. They get more of a kick out of feeling like they control you, than they do off the actual sex. So a lot of it is from a psychological motivation.”

Do you think men have changed over the years?

“I don’t want to be so brazen as to just blame feminism for this. However, I think there is a part to play where men do feel emasculated. They don’t know ‘should I open the door? Will I get yelled at?’

“A lot of the time the grip is they don’t know what it is to be a man anymore. They’ve lost their way. That’s what I’ve seen in my clients.”

What advice can you give to women who say they’re baffled or completely confused by the behaviour of men?

“Detach the emotions – look at it from the outside. The man will give you all the cues from his behaviour and his relationships.

“You’ll be able to pick out if this person is going to be a long term thing or not really the right fit for you.”

Published by Henry, on May 14th, 2017 at 5:48 pm. Filled under: PEOPLE,PROSTITUTION,SEX STORIES,SEX WORKERS. Tags: , , , , , | No Comments |

Sydney NSW Australia Grammar School teacher, 33, pleads guilty to sex with 17-year-old student

A female teacher at a prestigious Sydney private school had been warned about her behaviour towards students before she started a sexual relationship with a 17-year-old boy.

The woman, 33, had sex with the year 12 schoolboy multiple times while she was a teacher and he a student at the elite Sydney Grammar School in the inner city suburb of Darlinghurst.

The relationship continued over three months last year, with the pair meeting to have sex in a store room and classroom at the school and at the woman’s home.

After the boy attempted to end the relationship, the woman sent him lengthy messages describing herself as a “monster”, saying she was “too happy or too stupid to see the signs” and asking “am I going to go to gaol?”

According to an agreed statement of facts tendered in court, the woman had been employed as a teacher at Sydney Grammar since January 2008.

On four occasions between 2013 and 2014,  the woman was warned or contacted about inappropriate behaviour towards students with the school expressing concern a “pattern” was developing.

“You must not in any communication with boys of the school, written or spoken, or electronic, make any sexual references or use terms with obviously sexual connotations,” a letter sent to her stated.

The teacher was also reprimanded for forming an “overly close pastoral role” with a male student with a mental health problem and was “directed not to do this again”.

According to the facts, the woman and boy, who was suffering from depression, developed a relationship when they were working on an extra-curricular school activity together.

The woman started sending text messages to the boy about her family, health problems, depression and gave him poems and letters.

They had sex the first time at the woman’s home and then mainly met up in the evening at the school. The woman, according to the court documents, made the boy write sexual fantasies for her and she wrote them for him.

The boy attempted to break off communication with the woman in April last year, but she continued to text message him up until the police were contacted in September 2016.

According to the court documents, the boy was frightened to end contact with the woman because he thought she might harm herself.

“We agreed to sever contact,” the boy wrote in one text message.

“I didn’t have much choice. I’m finding it so hard. I’m doing my best,” the woman responded.

“There was a while I didn’t feel like I had much choice either. Guess that’s fair,” the boy replied.

“I’m so, so sorry about that. I had no idea. I thought I was making you as happy as you were making me. You never even hinted. I hate myself for not seeing it in time.”

In another message, the woman wrote: “I see that it’s my own foolishness and selfishness that have led to it. That you’ve been hurt by those things is unforgivable … I’m a f…… monster but I’m so, so, so sorry.”

The boy told his friends what had happened, and the woman was arrested by police in October.

In the Downing Centre Local Court earlier this week, the woman pleaded guilty to six counts of having sexual intercourse with a person under care.

In a statement last year, Sydney Grammar headmaster John Vallance said the teacher had been suspended as soon as the school became aware of the allegations.

Parents had been notified about the situation, Dr Vallance said, and support had been provided.

“The employee concerned was suspended and forbidden to have any contact with pupils pending the outcome of the matter,” Dr Vallance said.

The woman’s bail has been continued and she will face court again later this month.

Published by Henry, on May 12th, 2017 at 8:17 pm. Filled under: SCHOOLS STUDENTS. Tags: , , , | No Comments |

‘Paedophile advice’ on Arizona radio station causes fury

An online petition has been launched by residents of the town of Benson in the US state of Arizona against a radio station which broadcast advice late at night on how to hide child pornography.

Statements aired by the station over a two-year period gave tips on how to disguise viewing such images.

The petition accuses the station of broadcasting “a sickening message”.

Cave 97.7 FM owner Paul Lotsof has publicly stated he disagrees with Arizona’s laws on child pornography.

He told KVOA News 4 Tucson that he had performed a public service by broadcasting the advice, which recently has been taken off air.

Mr Lotsof argues that possession of child pornography should not be a crime and that sentences for it are draconian.

“In many cases the penalties for pictures is worse than the penalty for murder,” he can be heard saying on a clip posted on YouTube by critics of his “outrageous” views.

Mr Lotsof maintains there is a distinction between viewing paedophile images and committing paedophile acts.

“The difference is [that in] one case, you’re molesting children and abusing them, causing children to do things that are not natural for children to do, and [in] the other case, they’re just possessing pictures,” he told News 4 Tucson.

Cave 97.7 describes itself as “south-east Arizona’s most powerful radio station”. Audience figures are not available on its website.

The petition on accuses Cave of broadcasting “a sickening message about a huge issue that plagues this country”.

“There is no excuse for this and [the station] needs to be shut down,” it states. “We can keep this garbage out of our community.”

The advice was broadcast under the format of a Public Service Announcement (PSA) – a way in which messages in the public interest are disseminated via the media.

Federal Communication Commission officials told News 4 Tucson that there were no rules which clearly articulated what could or could not be broadcast in relation to PSAs.

The US has a long tradition of upholding the principle of freedom of speech. But police in Benson say they are investigating whether the station’s PSAs are in breach of the law, and that the children in pictures are victims of a crime.

“Freedom of speech does not include telling people to commit crimes and continuing to pass on this information could lead to judicial action being taken,” a police statement said.

“We are now seeking legal advice on actions that can be taken for the content that has already been released and to ensure this kind of information is not released again.”

Arizona has some of the toughest laws in the US on child abuse and exploitation. In 2003 a high school teacher was sentenced to 200 years in prison after he was caught with thousands of images of child abuse on his computer.

Published by Henry, on May 11th, 2017 at 8:28 am. Filled under: LAW POLICE COURTS,PAEDOPHILES,RADIO TV AUDIO. Tags: , , | No Comments |

Condom-clogged pipe provides police clue in cracking Texas brothel

The door remains shut at Jade Massage Therapy following a late March 2017 police raid in Austin, Texas, U.S., April 11, 2017. REUTERS/Jon Herskovitz

Hundreds of condoms that clogged a city sewer pipe led police to raid a massage parlor in Texas and arrest two people for prostitution and other crimes, police documents released on Tuesday showed.

A real estate agent who had just taken over the property notified police of the blockage at Jade Massage Therapy in the Texas capital of Austin. He told them other tenants believed the business was a front for prostitution, a police arrest affidavit said.

Austin police then launched their probe that culminated in a raid about six weeks later where a woman who co-managed the business “was found in a massage room with a completely nude and uncovered male,” the document said.

Juan Wang and her husband Joseph Emery were arrested on suspicion of managing “a prostitution enterprise that used two or more prostitutes,” it said.

No lawyer was listed on the arrest affidavit and the company’s phone went to voicemail. Neither person could be immediately reached for comment.

Police also discovered more than $60,000 in cash at the woman’s home. She and her husband were arrested in March and charged with engaging in organized criminal activity to promote prostitution and money laundering, court documents filed in April showed.


Published by Henry, on May 4th, 2017 at 7:33 pm. Filled under: CONDOMS CHASTITY BELTS,LAW POLICE COURTS. Tags: , , , , , | No Comments |